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If dialogue is important in interpersonal relationships, it is even more communication in the family. The communication is guided by feelings and the information we transmit and understand. Communication helps us to make contact with people, to give or receive information, to express or understand what we think, to convey our feelings, comungar any thought, idea, experience, or information with others, and we join or bind by affection.

When there is communication in a family, surely we can say that there is a camaraderie, a complicity, and an atmosphere of unity and affection at home. There will be mutual respect and above all a more established values. However, creating this climate of communication in the family, it is not an easy task. We must help children with practices, ie, that parents establish mechanisms to facilitate communication.

Small tips to improve communication between parents and children :

- To give information, check that it is always a positive way.
- Obeying the rule that “everything that is said is true.”
- Empathize or put ourselves in another’s place.
- Provide consistent and not contradictory messages.
- Listen with attention and interest.
- Create an emotional environment to facilitate communication.
- Seek the advice and opinion to others.
- To express and share feelings.
- Be clear when asking for something.

Summer is time for outdoor fun with your kids. However, sometimes the days are long & your ideas are short. Here are some ideas to help you make sure your active ones are busy & getting many fresh air this summer.

Flat You
Lay on the sidewalk & take turns outlining each other. Decorate your flat selves by drawing clothing & funny faces. To make this project educational, you can read the book “Flat Stanley” as well.

Garden
Your child will learn science, responsibility & have fun by planting a garden & maintaining it. In fact, if you have the time or inclination, you can make the entire landscape edible. How fun would it be to wander around the yard snacking? Blueberry bushes, strawberries, herbs, & fruit trees are all easy to maintain. Some vegetables, like tomatoes require nothing but a lot of water & sunshine to grow like weeds. Start small & see what happens.

Hoola Hoops
Has your child ever tried to hoola-hoop? Show him how. Then, take hoola hoops & make a pretend circus in the yard or try to get your dog to jump through two. You are only limited by your imagination.

Bubbles
Bubbles are always a favorite. Take turns chasing & popping them. Blow bubbles with various bubble wands to see how their shapes & sizes differ.

Hopscotch
Teach your infants how to play hopscotch. Let them draw their own hopscotch patterns. If they are like I was as a child, they’ll make hundreds of squares & hop around all day.

Turn on the Sprinklers
There’s no require to buy a pool when the old-fashioned sprinklers are as much fun. There is definitely something special about walking around in the front yard through the sprinklers, when the neighbor infants see you having fun & join in.

Be sure to print out this list & keep it handy for the next time your kids say “MOMMMMMM — we’re bored!”

Case one: You told your children a fairy story about the stork. Now what do you do?
The out: Remind them of the Santa Claus myth and say, “Now you’re old enough to know.”

Case two: You got flustered once and said, “You’re too young to understand.” Now your child won’t talk to you any more.
The out: Reopen the door. “Remember when I said you were too young? Now you’re old enough; let’s talk about it.” Even if your child doesn’t want to right that minute, he or she probably will soon, if not about that question, then another.

Case three: You got impatient when your child didn’t understand, asked too many questions, or asked at the wrong time. You feel you were unfair, but now it’s too late.
The out: Reopen the door. “You know, I was thinking about our conversation last week. I think I was unfair…”
Some of these things sound so obvious that you may wonder why on earth anyone would have any question about them. But it’s amazing how often everyone —including the experts — overlook the obvious when under pressure.

Case four: You’re on the spot with a question that is complicated, and you can’t think how to answer. Maybe it’s one that’s causing your child a lot of anxiety or fear. The more you try to think, the blanker your mind gets, and the more frightened your child looks.
The out: “Boy, you’ve asked a tough one! I’m not stalling because I’m embarrassed or mad at you. I’m just having a hard time trying to figure out the best way to answer you. Just give me a minute to think about it, okay?”
That takes the heat off both of you, and you can go ahead and think as long as you need to. Your child will be pleased that you consider his or her concerns worthy of real thought, no matter how anxious he or she is. You are being the model for the thoughtful parent that you hope your child will be some day.

In the end, it’s often not the answer itself that counts, but the empathy you show, the attitude you impart, and the feelings that you share. Those are the things that will really be remembered. If your children want a textbook, they can eventually buy one. All they want from a parent or teacher is a reasonably knowledgeable, caring, understanding, and honest adult.