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In Spain the last frontier of sex is to deal with the crisis. In principal Iberian city more and more real estate ads that offer rooms for rent in exchange for sex. The initiative, according to El Mundo and El Pais, is targeted primarily at students or at least to young people with few financial resources willing to share a roof with regular intimate relationships.

Tenders, explicit, leaving no room for doubt of any kind. “Alquilo habitacion a cambio de sexo”, “Busco chica para compartir piso a cambio de sexo” ( “Rent a room in exchange for sex,” “I want a girl to share an apartment in exchange for sex), we read about many university boards of the country and on online advertisements. The phenomenon in great expansion, the daily El Mundo devoted a full page and even El Paìs is interested in the new trend hard.

To offer apartments in exchange for sex, however, are not only men looking for companionship. Also, student tenants, in fact, have started to put ads unequivocal. “I am a Spanish student of 27 years old, seeking a room in shared apartment in exchange for sex, if possible with Spanish, more than 25 years, working,” offers a listing over by El Mundo.

To unravel all the mechanisms, a journalist from the newspaper came into the game. Was proposed as a tenant to some advertiser. The first is young, offering food and accommodation in Madrid for “sexual intercourse three days.” Generous, it also adds the carriage drive tenants to work. “We can meet, see the house, have the first report, and then give you the keys of the house,” suggests. Another, Pedro, offers, always on the internet, “camera girl or a free pair of girls of good education in return for sexual relations from time to time.” And ‘the second time, said: with the first tenant, things went well. “We have established conditions, only rules of coexistence: the sex, I try to make sure it is cold.”

Usually the first contacts are by e-mail, with exchange of photos, some are calling in “lingerie”. Then the first meeting, and if all goes well, click the “contract”, usually informally. “I left with my girlfriend and I know many people,” said a boy from Barcelona, 23 years, which in turn provides a roof in exchange for sex. The economic crisis that has befallen Spain seems one of the springs of the phenomenon, but not only. “It has to do with the loneliness and the trivialization of sex,” says the psychologist Erik Pescador. And then the people are ‘less capable of sustaining relationships face to face, many use the Internet, the marriage agencies … and this concludes Pescador, “is perhaps only the last flight forward.”

Giving Sex Education

People do need information to be able to use their instincts effectively and wisely. We are human beings with emotions and with social consequences for our behavior. You do need to have some basic information about biology and human sexual behavior. You do not, however, need to be a doctor or a Masters or Johnson to be a helpful sex educator. You do not need to have all the facts at your immediate disposal. You merely need to be aware of what you do not know, have the courage to admit it and the ability and willingness to help the child get additional information.

You can plan never to say anything at all about sex, and stick to it. But the children will still get sex education in their class, and you will probably give it to them. You will give it when you either react or don’t react to words or comments, when you choose words to designate going to the bathroom and when you pass over a question.

Doctors will give sex education in the way they handle an examination, in the way they talk, or don’t talk, about sexual matters. Ministers also will give sex education in the way they discuss sin and love.

Children are not usually that demanding. Mostly, youngsters require honesty and a willingness to help. People who expect much more of themselves and try to bluff their way through are doing more harm and making it harder on themselves, than if they had said, “I don’t know — let’s find out.”

Children, then, are going to get sex education, not “one way or another”, as we often say, but in all ways. They will get it in the streets, over the radio, through television and in the newspapers, in the school, from their friends, from your neighbors — everywhere. You have no choice about it!

What’s more, we keep on getting sex education even as older adults. When our children say to us, “Gee, you don’t think about sex anymore,” or “You’re too old to have a baby,” or “Look at that dirty old man,” we are getting sex education. When a couple married for fifty years goes to a nursing home and put into separate bedrooms, that’s sex education. So you can see, it goes on and on. Sex education is all around us. It can’t be avoided